Stag Bachelor Party Planning

Oh man, I have been there before. I am certainly not one of those kinds of guys that wanted to step up to the plate and deliver a speech to the huge crowd at my brothers wedding. However, I wanted to try to lighten the mood with my speech. I find them nice only when they are informative and rarely any “hidden meanings” within them. So, I tried to accomplish this as well with my own speech. I would highly recommend the same route to others.

Let’s face it. The married couple probably invited as many people as they could so that they could receive all the items that they wanted for their new house. So, you now that you know there are going to be people there that may have never met you, you should start with a little introduction about yourself. This is mainly for the people that are not brothers, and perhaps even if you are, you should introduce yourself as such. Things like how long you have known him or how you guys originally met would be great ones.

The next thing can be something to draw people in. A couple of humorous and short stories about the groom will bring people in and not make it feel quite so sappy as it might if you went straight to how much the groom means to you. But try to avoid things like, “I remember watching Tom chase girls around the pool table at the bars a few years back.”

Last, but certainly not least, you should end it with something sappy. Everyone will probably start to tear about this time, particularly the mother of the groom. But it is fine; you should tell them how the relationship has changed him. How they are perfect for one another. Talk about their relationship in general and perhaps their future plans.

In the end, try to keep it short. Keep your stories directly to the point. And do not hesitate writing your Best Man Speech down and reading it. It is better than trying to memorize it or getting stage fright and completely forgetting what you wanted to say.The next thing can be something to draw people in. A couple of humorous and short stories about the groom will bring people in and not make it feel quite so sappy as it might if you went straight to how much the groom means to you. But try to avoid things like, “I remember watching Tom chase girls around the pool table at the bars a few years back.”

Last, but certainly not least, you should end it with something sappy. Everyone will probably start to tear about this time, particularly the mother of the groom. But it is fine; you should tell them how the relationship has changed him. How they are perfect for one another. Talk about their relationship in general and perhaps their future plans.

In the end, try to keep it short. Keep your stories directly to the point. And do not hesitate writing your Best Man Speech down and reading it. It is better than trying to memorize it or getting stage fright and completely forgetting what you wanted to say.

So you’re the best man. Your duties include throwing an awesome bachelor party for the groom before he makes the lunge into monogamy. You’re also responsible for helping with wedding arrangements and hanging onto the rings, but wait there is one other thing the best man is responsible for…oh that’s right a speech. You know the speech, the speech in front of two hundred of the bride and grooms families and friends. The speech that honors and gives blessing to the couples new found wedding bliss. If you’re a best man in this situation your probably thinking oh it’s just a speech it’s not like it has to be memorable like The Gettysburg Address. This may be true, your words might not have to go down in history but the best man’s speech is extremely important for the wedding. It helps set the mood for the reception. A poor speech can put a damper on the party. If a good speech is given, that can bring joy to all guests this will create a more relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere for the party to escalate. This is why this article offers three crucial points to giving the perfect best man speech.

The first and most important point is finding a balance in your speech between humor and seriousness. As the best man you must understand the main goal of a best man speech is to celebrate the love of the newly weds. Make sure in your speech there is a portion doing just that in which you discuss how much you can tell the couple is in love and stress the responsibilities that go along with marriage and most importantly don’t forget to wish the couple a wonderful marriage on your behalf. Now being heart felt and serious is fine but too much is going to bore the party to death. They are going to feel like there listening to an economics lecture. This is where your humor factor comes in. Humor is always a good way to get the party in good spirits and not only that, it will help ease the best man’s anxiety. If the best man sees his audience laughing he will pick up on theier positive vibes and become in good spirits himself, which will only allow him to deliver his speech better. Humor can easily be put into a speech using a joke in the introduction or comparing marrage to something funny in an analogy. The one that will always work is a funny story about the bride or groom before they were married. This a guaranteed laugh.

Next is time limit. Your probably thinking how long should a best man speech be. Well put it this way a best man speech should be longer than it takes the DJ to announce you and shorter then a monologue from a Broadway show. This does not mean time should cause you to compromise your speech. If you have a witty or humorous line don’t cut it out due to time constraints. I personally recommend a best man speech being no shorter then one minute but no longer than four. Anyone who can find a midway point between that should be perfectly fine.

Lastly is preparation. Regardless if a speech is for a graduation or a wedding, a good speech is well prepared. Preparation can be done in three ways. The first is research, now no best man speech doesn’t require research like someone going for a PH.D but it couldn’t hurt if the best man took some initiative to look up previous best man speeches on the internet or ask someone who has given a best man speech in the past. After you take in all your research you can adopt the points you felt could help your speech and tailor it accordingly.

After focusing on research you should focus next on presentation. Focusing on how you present your speech will only make you more prepared and ultimately improve your confidence at game time. The best way to do this is by practice. So practice your speech in front of family, friends and whoever is willing to listen. The more your speech is practiced the better it will be delivered at the party. With practice your only going to become more accustomed to speaking in front of groups of people. When it comes to presentation it is important to work on body language and eye contact. You always want to make sure your hands are not moving too much and your not fidgeting. This gives off that your nervous.

Lastly when it comes to presentation always work on your vocals. For example there might be parts of your speech in which you want to stress the words louder or change the tone of your voice. This would be like going from Humorous to serious. You don’t want to seem like your reading from a book. Let the audience know by the tone of your voice that your changing directions.

If these three crucial points are followed you can rest assure you will give a successful best man speech. The last thing I will leave you with is remember to have fun with the speech, be creative and original. The more you make this speech your own the more confident you will be delivering it.

Have you ever been asked to write a best man speech? Chances are, the request would have come from someone very close to you – like your buddy or best friend. And because they are very close to you, you find yourself obliged to say “yes”, even though you know nuts about writing best man speeches. Now before you go into a frenzy and get all stressed out because you have absolutely no idea how to write a best man speech, don’t worry. There is always help readily available – if you know where to look that is.

But before you even begin, it’s important to understand what a good best man speech is, and is not. At least that will give you something to shoot for. Otherwise, you would just be groping the dark, hoping to hit the target when you can’t even see it. Well, a good best man speech is something that is simple, concise, and communicates key messages about the couple about to get married.

These key messages are the “meat” of the entire speech. Get this wrong, and your whole speech is destined for failure. The main content should consist of real life examples of deeds that are accomplished by the groom. And you don’t want just any deed. You want deeds that are illustrative of the groom’s outstanding personality, or anything that points towards the direction that the groom is more than capable to handle the responsibilities and duties that come with a marriage. The whole point of including these vital examples is to inspire confidence – confidence in the groom that he can take good care of his family, and honor this sacred bond that ties two beautiful people together.

But coming up with examples of the groom’s past deeds is just part of the writing process. Perhaps the hardest part about writing a best man speech is possibly putting the deeds into words. The choice of words will make or break your best man speech. For this reason, it is best to refer to some best man speeches written by professionals.

Why professionals? Because professionals know the right words to use, so that you can express and deliver the entire speech in exactly the way you want it to. You want your speech to be flowing, like poetry, and be inspiring at the same time. That is the tricky part. And here is where the professionals can help. By referring to best man speeches written by professionals, you get to learn the right words to use, and the mistakes to avoid.

But is it worth the effort to go to all that trouble? You bet it is. After all, it’s your best friend’s wedding, and he deserves nothing but the best treatment from his closest friend – you! So take the time to scour through as many best man samples as you can. Be sure to choose from those written by professionals only, and make every effort to ensure that your best man speech turns out the way you want it to – perfect.